Single vs. Married? Which guys have more fun?

There are some people who think that being in a relationship is the end of your days of fun and excitement and living the life of a happy go lucky guy. And then there are some who believe that the single life is really sucky, and who would desperately do anything to be in a loving relationship with someone. So which side are you on?

My friend who lives in Las Vegas, we'll call him Steve, (psst..that's his real name) is of the mind that he will NEVER be in a long-term relationship because he could never handle not doing what he wanted to do whenever he wanted to do it. He believes that a relationship is sacrificing more than he's willing to sacrifice. I know Steve, and I think that's really a little bit of baloney. I had his mentality at one time myself. It's probably why we ended up dating for a little less than a year in 2000. Although I wanted to be in a relationship, I was too immature to realize what a relationship required. I let a couple of really good relationships slip through my fingers because once the passion and the excitement died down, I wanted to be single again! Yeah, that's it! I wanna be single! There's more out there to be had! More guys to conquer! Bigger and better penises/asses to be grabbed!

And in reality, those are always going to be out there. There's always going to be someone who's hot and you have the possibility to get at, somebody who gives you the eye and you can take 'em home for the night......but the dilemma arises after you've been doing that year after year and all of a sudden one day comes and uh-oh, you're 45 and you're all alone. You live by yourself in your bachelor pad and you and your cat keep each other company every nite. Your club card is fresh, but not those gray hairs you have to dye right quick before you hit the streets to party all night.

I guess some people want to be by themselves,though; and for them, it really is more fun being single and not having anyone to control what you do and where you go. I know I'm not one of them. I'm glad that I now realize the value of having someone in your life who makes you happy and who you can have fun with. It's awesome knowing that whatever I do and wherever I go, when I get home there will be someone there waiting to kiss me goodnite. For me, being in a relationship is much more fun than being single.

Don't get me wrong, though! When I was single, I partied many the night away. I even took my fair share of guys home....and by my fair share, I mean 7. Yeah, let's go with that number. But my point is, I had fun going out and dancing, and meeting people and letting loose. It was good to be single.....but deep down inside, I wanted to have someone there; someone to make me laugh, someone to have fun with. But then I'd think too much about it again and say "but if I get a boyfriend, I won't be able to go out, and I won't be able to go hang with my friends anymore". Because I completely had that mindset. When I was in a relationship, it was ALL ABOUT him! My friends just had to wait. I was such a loser with a capital "L". And I would be so into them for all of 6 months, and then bam! "There's got to be bigger, better, different!" Wow..... How funny I was. Now I know you can have a rewarding relationship with your partner as well as with your good friends, all at the same time!

But my friend Steve just doesn't get it. When I talk to him these days, it's always the same. It seems that he wants to believe that he's happy being able to get with a different guy whenever he wants to, but I can hear some hint of longing in his voice. He really wants to meet that one guy that's gonna make him want to be in a relationship. He just hasn't met him because he thinks he doesn't want that.

What I want guys like Steve to know is that I'm in a relationship now and I have more fun than I ever thought I would. I still go out and party; that never stopped. Of course, it's not every weekend like I did before, but we go and party together when we feel like it. Jeremy parties harder than I do sometimes! (not usually, but sometimes) :-) I still meet new people. I don't get to fool around with people anymore, but I get to fool around with one particular, special person as much as I want to; a person who makes me laugh, a person who kisses me goodnight every night. I know there will always be someone hot and available giving me eye (at least I hope so for little while longer). But I'm mature enough now to know that all that glitters is not gold. Those sexy beasts that hypnotized me before, only mildly interest me now. I'm still a bit flirty. I can 't change that, but I'd much rather have someone there to slap me back into line when I step out than not. Single is good, but for me, married is much better! Uh oh......Honey wants to watch Survivor. "Comin, sweetie.....!"